Archive for December, 2011

Get a better New Years resolution

Over 80% of New Years resolutions have one crucial underlying problem, that  is why they fail.
One of the basic problems is that they quickly become tedious.


Studies show a whopping of 80% New Years resoltuions fail, those who succeeded broke their resolution down into smaller steps had just under a 40% success rate.  Based on this there will be a blog post each week  that will be a fun mini project, hot tip or trick so you can have new step to try out.  Each one will be easily to apply to your life, and will cover a different angle of the sexy life.


For a sneak peek of topics we will be covering include:
*How to celebrate the your body. This includes grooming, dressing, using and pleasuring yourself so you can show the world a spring in your step and a glow.
*Household management. I know, most people think of it as one of the most unsexy things in life. I am going to let you in of a few ( or more!) secrets that will make satisfying, quick and make you feel sexy all over.
*Delicious food that is as entertaining to make as it is to eat.
*Decorating your life from the car to the lounge and beyond!
*The multiple aspects of being irresistible and charming
* Essential self care for the feminine form
*And many, many more

This is about deciding what sort of woman you want to be a year from now, if your life could do with a few more delights in it. If you want to get greedy about pleasure, if you want to get close, and want more from life.

With you in the sexy life,

5 tips for turning a bedroom into a boudoir

The sexy life is a lot more than just having a lingerie drawer full of sheer delights.  No small part of it is setting, somewhere you feel relaxation spreading over your body and slower thoughts crossing your mind. This blog post is going to be about 5 effective and low cost things you can do to make your bedroom into boudoir (pronouncec bood-warr). Mood setting is covered here, this is about making sure every time you open the door the sight is inviting and touches you with a fantasy.

1.  Canvas the clutter. Walking into a room and seeing mess, for me, is seeing a chore to do. It does nothing to ease  you into themood. Get it done in 10 minutes bursts until the room is clear and clutter free.

2.  Think fabric and feel the fabric. Bed spreads should be bought not just on colour but also on how intimate they feel on the skin. Hot tip- dont just feel it with the skin on your fingers, use your inner wrist as well.  Aim to get bedding you would want to spend all day in.   Adding a few cushions, wall tapestry or a thick pile rug can make all the difference.

3. Turn down the lights- this doesn’t mean that you have to get your local sparkie in, it can be as simple as getting a lamp that adjusts. Soft lighting is soothing and shadows on the wall can be quite playful, if you work it right. The pair I have in my boudoir costs less than $100 for the pair.

4. Mirror, mirror. A well placed mirror can make all the difference in the world. Putting it on the ceiling might be out of budget, or beyond your handyman skills, but on a wall with a slight tilt upwards, will get an additional visual going for you.


5. Tease your other senses to full attention. For scent try a reed difuser or candle in a fresh scent, or vanilla (proven to attract men).  I enjoy reed diffuser as that release a scent at all times, but on the other hand candles do add to the atmosphere beautifully. For sound  a small sound system is great for putting on something you find pleasurable, but I wouldn’t put a TV in there. Too distracting and it does nothing to improve the mood.

Together with you in the sexy life,

PS. I have one more sexy tip for you I just could not resist slipping in. One more thing that doesn’t cost the earth to add  boudoir pictures to your bedroom is semi or fully undressed. It does wonders for the mood, it reminds you what else you can do in the bedroom besides sleep.

Things to do to enjoy yourself (lingerie not required)

Clean the closets; bake up a storm,  start a new craft, dance in the living room with the radio blaring, go to a museum, experiment with your makeup and clothes (grown-up dress-up) for new looks, design your spring garden, call that friend you’ve been meaningI spent hours in a butterfly house chasing this little bug. I think the photo was worth it.tocall, call your mother, pamper yourself (bubble bath, facial, the whole works!), rent movies, make popcorn and have a popcorn fight, put your bathing suit on and have a water gun fight with your neighbours, try something you’ve never thought of trying before, go water the plants.


Take a drive to the pet store; exercise;  hang out with the girls; go to bookstores; make a list of all the books you never got to read, then read them one by one; read magazines; pick up a new hobby (which for me right now is salsa!); cultivate old ones (painting, drawing); try rock-climbing/kick-boxing (or some other testosterone-oriented activity) and actually enjoy doing it for *yourself*; learn something new (javascript, html, how to cook, how to knit, etc…; vacuum something; wash the car; vacuum the car that you just washed!; go window shopping: go to the mall (leave your wallet at home); go shopping; do some volunteer work; go to the beach; go to a play; go to the park and feed some ducks; buy a plant and watch it grow; learn more about stocks, investing;


Cook with reckless abandon; attempt to locate long lost friends; actually WRITE a letter and MAIL it; develop your film;play Cindy Lauper’s Girls Just Wanna Have Fun; dance naked in your room (with the blinds shut of course); go on a cruise;  meditate; practice; go for a walk; clean out one drawer of your desk ; Prepare an extravagant 6 course meal for one; put your favourite CD on and sing along; surf the net; DANCE on the bed (or find out where there are inexpensive lessons to be taken); write a list of life goals;  write a poem, paint a picture; do all the things you thought you would never have time to do paint your toenails; change the arrangement of your room; take a 15 minute nap; look in the mirror and find out what you like best about the way you look; tell yourself you are beautiful; think about what you like best about the way you are on the inside; tell yourself you are beautiful on the inside as well;


Rent a movie you haven’t seen since you were little; go to the library and find a book you loved as a child; call your family, organize a girl’s night or a slumber party; take pictures of yourself; take pictures of your pets; take pictures of things you like; go places you enjoy; sit on a park bench and watch the clouds/stars; have a picnic in the middle of the floor; eat a piece of fruit verrrrrry verrrrryy slow and pay attention to every move you make, and most of all…

Enjoy yourself every day. Whether you find it in the pleasure of a facial, a organised room, or lingerie this life  (and blog) is about finding pleasure.


Kisses,


Sexy, cool drink for a hot Christmas!

Christmas time is upon us, the lights, the  lingerie, and the wrapped presents (both the sexy type and the regular). One thing you might like to add to you Christmas party menu is eggnog. This recipe takes less than 10 minutes to prepare and has just 7 ingrediants.


Imagine sipping a vanilla thick shake that developed a spicy relationship with cinnamon, nutmeg and ginger, and if you like a boozy  friend. This drink’s recipe started out over a thousand years ago, but don’t that fool you, it is super refreshing. It is traditional to add liquor to this frosty drink, rum, brandy or whiskey are all excellent.

Ingredients:
2 litres of milk, whole is bestAll you need for some great eggnog1 1/3 icing sugar
1/2 teaspoon of cinnamon
1/8 teaspoon of nutmeg
1/4 teaspoon of ginger
1 packet of vanilla pudding
2 teaspoons of vanilla
1. Measure out all powdered ingrediants and pour onto a plate
2. Mix in with the milk throughly. If you have a jug, mix with a whisk. If you wish to mix it in the bottle carefully pour in the powder and shake throughly.
3. Chill for  1 hour
Optional fourth step, add one shot per serving, in this case 6 should do. You can always add more.

Enjoy it any way you can, but it is extra delicious with a nice peppermint candy cane to stir it with.  Have fun sipping your way to better holiday cheer this summer!
Yours in lovely lingerie and delicious food,


PS. Countries that drink eggnog often have a particular liqour they use based on palate preferences and what is plentiful.

*In Peru where the drink is called biblia con pisco they use brandy (called pisco). So the literal translation of the name becomes biblia (Bible) con (with) pisco (brandy).
*Germany treats it like a hot soup and use beer for the boozy edge

*North America prefers bourbon in the eggnog and the southern part prefers whiskey
*Colonial America preffered rum as at the time it was a cheap liquor to add to the mix
*In England where the drink originates, the alcohol was white wine

Make this the sexiest Christmas ever!

The happy holidays are upon us, some much to do, people to see and things to cook, remember to add Christmas lingerie to the list then check it twice.
Think of  all the sugared up sexy fun you have with Halloween costumes and take a look at some sexy, sweet and tasty treats for you

Bring some Ho Ho Ho to your holidays
and your holiday honey this year. Of course you don’t have to wear it just for a private viewing you could steal all the attention at Christmas parties this year.

If you want his holiday to be extra jolly, and for him to be begging to get you under the mistletoe think about something short, sweet and a little racy to put on.  Our collection this year features sensual red velvet. Velvet is one of those sexy materials that feels great on, but even better as you take it off. Velvet has a much higher thread count than many other materials because of the weave. When you touch velvet it is incredibly smooth and soft and is sure to make him melt!

If you want a Santa inspired outfit (far too cold to wear at the North Pole, but just right for New Zealand) or maybe you want to be Santa’s right hand woman we have all your  sexy Christmas Lingerie you need.
This season when you and your darling are sipping something in front of the Christmas tree, made sure it isn’t the most decorated item in the room. Put on something extra special and make sure you  December is merry and you are the best wrapped present this year. You could always try a strip tease to the classic ‘Santa baby’ for a naughty gift for you loved one.

I personally love the  Santa’s Honey costume. It have long velvet gloves that make it perfect to stretch out the moment when you slide off the glove one finger at a time. You could also makes a candy cane part of the act with a little imagination, preferably paired with some red lipstick.

These festive (and SEXY) costumes are sure to make Santa want you to sit on his lap and tell him everything you want this year! Spices are for more than just eggnog, add some spice to your bedroom and snuggle up this season. Keep in mind some special lingerie will make you extra kissable and put you on the naughty list so make sure the fun was worth it.

Kiss you under the mistletoe,